What is the only constant thing in life? Did you say change? No, you got it wrong.

It is actually “CHANGE”. I’m just kidding.

So, yeah change is the only constant thing in life and it is amazing the amount of friction that change brings. Phew. Imagine a kid maturing into teenage. The stress and pain of growing breasts and menstruating. The stress of wet dreams for a male child. The stress of pregnancy for a lady. Positive change never really just happens like that. It is hectic and stressful.

Bring that to a life of purpose. You who had been very unserious about your life with your unserious friends and unsupportive family. The very moment they begin to see changes of positivity, the first reaction to you is a fight. Do they mean to fight you? Not really. They are fighting the new you that they are not familiar with. People usually prefer to cling to the familiar. They will come around to supporting you but it is your responsibility to give them a why.

Understand that the moment you step out a battle starts, but the truth is that you won the first part that is how you stepped out. All hell breaks loose the moment a man moves to do something about his or her dreams and vision. Circumstances immediately arrange themselves on your path of progress and it could be so difficult sometimes, you want to give up. Ever wondered why everything was smooth and everyone was on your side until you decided to do something about (for) you. Sometimes, it is not necessarily you getting serious with your life. It could be you moving from your career to your purpose. Something that a lot of people may not have the foresight to see. In some cases, it may be you deciding to give yourself more attention than you have been giving yourself in time past. People will resist you. Don’t expect everyone to support you. Don’t even expect your family to support you.

In the case of finding purpose, it can be so fulfilling and gratifying for you but for other people involved in your life, it may be crap until they see your commitment. Anyhow, don’t be swayed, keep your focus on your anticipated outcome and keep moving forward till you reach it. That is the only way people will adapt to the change you are creating. Change can be so challenging and if you do not understand that, you may just end up ruining everything for yourself and for everyone. Be aware of the fact that even when some people support you at first, they still expect you to fail. You are not working to prove them wrong. You are working to be a better person.

So, when you get to that point in your life when you are about to make a huge change, understand everyone’s involvement and work with them according. Do not also wait till everything is perfect, trust me, it is never going to be perfect. Even when you have achieved your dream. Wipe that daydream of perfection off your mind. Start where you are with what you have. To convince yourself that you want to go far in life, i.e. reach the peak in your area of expertise, take that step. If you keep postponing that big change, you may never do anything about it. Even you will not be sure that you are going to do better with more, if you are doing nothing with the little in your control.

So, start by doing the little, then you can do the much that will take you to your dream.

Enjoy your big change!